How Classic Rom Coms Ruined My Life

I have always been a hopeless romantic. I grew up on classic rom coms, like How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, 13 Going on 30, The Wedding Planner, and my all-time favorite, Dirty Dancing. In these movies, guy meets girl, guy falls in love, guy gets the girl, and they live happily ever after as the end credits roll with a sappy song playing in the background.

Because of these movies, I always had grandiose visions of a guy serenading me outside my window or randomly showing up on my doorstep with a bouquet of my favorite flowers. We would picnic in a beautiful meadow of daisies and “accidentally” have a food fight while we baked together. In these fantasies, we would be as happy and carefree as can be, the true envy of everyone else, just like the main characters in all my favorite movies.  

But rom coms are not reality. 

Compared to classic rom coms, reality is boring. In reality, love is getting drinks together after a long work day. Love is watching TV in comfortable silence with sweatpants and no make-up on. Love is running errands together. Love is weekend trips, cooking dinner together, and the occasional fancy date night. Real love is navigating life hand in hand through every moment, big or small. 

Because of my beloved classic rom coms, I would always imagine love to be perfect and then I would be disappointed when guys in real life didn’t live up to the picture I created in my head. I wanted picture-perfect movie moments, where a guy proclaims his love for a girl with an over-the-top gesture. I was always of the opinion that if a guy didn’t go that extra mile for me, then he wasn’t the one for me. 

That’s where I was wrong. 

What I didn’t understand was that real love isn’t expressed through some extravagant, overdramatic gesture. It’s shown through smaller acts in everyday life that actually turn out to be more meaningful than one flashy display. 

Love is shown in the way he takes your hand as you’re walking and in the way he calls to check that you made it home safely. You can feel it when he sends you a song that reminded him of you and when you catch him staring at you, smiling for no reason. 

Normal life can be filled with our own unique movie moments. We just have to choose to see them.

Because that’s the thing about real life: it’s real. It’s not a predictable, overdramatic plotline. Your journey may be messy and imperfect, but it’s unique and yours. Nobody else in the world will ever have the same story, and that’s what it makes it so beautiful and special. So let’s romanticize our everyday, normal lives and fall in love with that picture, not just the one on the big screen.

Jessica YutangcoComment